Meeting someone for the first time can be a daunting experience. Every first conversation takes the same route. What are you studying? Where do you work? Whereabouts are you from? It’s all essential information in getting to know someone, but is all the chit-chat really necessary?
You wouldn’t be friends with someone you knew nothing about, would you? Small talk can provide some basic information on the other person with which you can relate to. You can find common interests or beliefs that can allow you to expand your knowledge of the other person. Over time, trust and understanding is built and you both feel safer talking about deeper topics, if you choose to.
Reflecting on current friends, I think back to when we first met and the conversations we had then. All the basic getting-to-know-you chit-chat, eventually leading to a hobby, opinion, some common interest that strengthens our bond and solidifies our friendship that bit more. To neither ask nor answer basic, somewhat boring questions to others presents little to no chance that your relationship with them will progress beyond anything but an acquaintance. But making the effort to ask and answer those questions can be incredibly rewarding. All it takes it time.
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a widely used personality-assessment instrument that questions people on how they usually feel or act in certain conditions. Depending on the answers given, the individual is classified as extraverted or introverted (E or I), sensing or intuitive (S or N), thinking or feeling (T or F), and judging or perceiving (J or P). These classifications together describe 16 personality types.
Though somewhat enlightening, one problem with the MBTI is that it forces a person into either one type or another (i.e. introverted or extroverted). There is no middle-ground, even though people can be both introverted and extroverted to some degree.
Out of curiosity I took the test and was not surprised with my result of INFP. What is surprising, is how a test that requires only 100 answers can so accurately identify my personality. I encourage everyone to take this test. It doesn’t take long and yields some interesting information on your personality type.
Here’s the site I used: http://www.16personalities.com
More info on my INFP personality type: http://www.16personalities.com/infp-personality
Coffee is great. I’ve never really been a big drinker of coffee but lately I’ve been having it more often, probably to keep me awake to power through these textbooks. To be honest I don’t have any idea on the differences between a latte and a flat white, or any other coffee in fact, I just end up choosing what sounds good in the moment. Terrible, I know.
I like my coffee sweet, which I guess doesn’t really make me a coffee drinker, considering that my favourite type of coffee usually doesn’t have any water in it – all milk with two sugars. I’ve begun merging into the realm of ‘a dash of milk’, instead filling most of my cup with hot water, and so far it’s been pretty good. I do seem to get really jittery half-way through a cup though. I’m putting it down to the two sugars I have, so maybe I should cut back on that – but then how do I maintain the sweetness? I don’t know, maybe coffee just isn’t for me. If one thing’s for certain though, it certainly helps me focus.